Long Distance Love Relationship

A long distance love relationship can presents certain challenges. If you and your partner are willing to have patience and determination you can overcome these challenges. It takes more work to make one of these relationships work.

For one there has to be a higher level of trust earlier than in regular ones. You will drive yourself berserk if you don’t have this trust between you.

Paranoia will set in and you will not be able to get through a day without thinking your partner is cheating on you. When this happens you might as well kiss the relationship goodbye.

Some things you want to DO to make the long distance relationship work are:

* Keep your independence. Don’t just sit at home waiting for your partner to call. Live your life and you will have more to talk about when you are conversing with them.
* Communicate with each other as much as you possibly can. Through the use of computers and cell phones this is not a hard task today.
* Plan trips to get together with each other and catch up on what the other one has been doing. Maybe you can come up with a very special location that you will both enjoy. Something like going snow skiing.
* Go back to hand writing letters to each other. These are rare today with the use of email. In years to come these letters will become such special keepsakes.
* Make certain that you both agree about what would happen in the future if marriage happens. Who would be the one to move and change jobs? This is an important point to be in agreement with.

The list above of the things to DO will make the relationship work better. There are the things that will break a relationship though.

Below are some of the things NOT to do long distance relationship…

* Don’t become possessive or clingy with your partner. With so much distance between you this only adds unwarranted pressure to the relationship.
* Don’t pester your partner when you know that they could be working. At these times it is best to use email and then they can answer you at their convenience. Overly calling could be conceived as clingy as we mentioned above.
* Don’t accuse them of dating someone else when there is no proof just your paranoia. With men this will make them want to run and run fast. You will lose them. Women won’t like it either, believe me.
* Don’t play hard to get or any other games that you may do if the other one was close by. These games are not wise under any circumstance but had much worse affects on a long distance relationship.
* Try not to be down when the other one calls you. Stay in an uplifting mood. Remember they might be having a hard day with their problems or the fact that they are away from you.

So work together to stay positive with each other and your relationship will get stronger. Remember that this could turn into a lifelong relationship. Share your lives the best you can and love will find a way through and over the distance that separates you.

xxx

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